Want To Feel Better About Yourself? Sharing My Five Biggest Fears: Hoping They Make You Feel Less Alone Or Even Make You Laugh!

Welcome to Episode 3 of this 5 day mini series which is designed to help you to feel totally sorted about yourself and your life.

During these 5 episodes I will be giving you the opportunity to listen to the inner most workings of my mind with the hope that you may think to yourself "Oh, so I'm not alone in thinking and feeling this." Or even better "Wow, I am totally sorted and she totally IS NOT!"

Come and join me as I journey through five things I'm rubbish at, five things I'm good at (I say that with the lighest of touches!) my five greatest fears, five daily spiritual practices that I follow and five thoughts I think only I think!

Feel free to come and find me on Instagram at bethgoodrham and drop me a message there. I'd love to hear from you!

I've also got a website HERE with lots of free resources and information about the coaching programmes and courses that I have available.

And remember, if you're in the market for some new knickers I have a 20% discount off at Stripe & Stare with the code BGOOD20 and I have a 15% discount with Baukjen at BGSTYLIST 15. 

Thank you so much for joining me! If there's anyone you know who you think might like to take a listen too, please share a Friend In Your Ear with them. 

Beth x

Transcript

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Hi, I am Beth and this is my podcast, A Friend in Your Ear. Friends are so important in our lives. They support us through the good and the bad, the ups and the downs. They give us the space to grow and the grace to fail. They are our biggest cheerleaders when we are our harshest critics. They're not just here for us, but they're here with us, and that's what this podcast is all about, being a friend in your ear. I'm a lawyer turned stylist and fashion blogger who built a successful styling business, and now I work from home running an online business. I spend a lot of time reading books, listening to audiobooks, and listening to podcasts. My favourite podcasts offer me advice, comfort, support, wisdom, and fun when my real life friends are busy. And this is a place where I can take what I've learnt and deliver it in a way that hopefully makes your life easier, gives you something to ponder and brings a little joy to your day. Think of this as a chat with a friend, a place where you can come to reminisce for nostalgia, a giggle and a place to find answers to something that might be bothering you. So whether you are out on a run or a walk on the school run, being a taxi to your kids or grandkids on a Zoom meeting with your. Or sitting with a glass of something cold in your hand. Welcome to the A Friend In Your Ear podcast. Hi, and welcome to another episode of this 5, 5, 5 mini series. I've just sat here talking to myself quite happily for the last six minutes or so. And then I looked up and realized that I wasn't actually recording any of the podcasts, which was very impressive. So I created this 5, 5, 5 series, which is five podcast episodes over five days talking about five separate topics with five points in each topic, making a total. Of 25 ideas, thoughts, realizations, things to ponder, um, probably slight general nonsense. In an effort that it lightens and brightens your day makes you feel less alone and quite possibly makes you feel exceptionally well sorted. When you listen to what I'm talking about now in episode one, I talked about five things that I am really, really bad at. Let me just do a quick recap in case that you haven't listened to that episode, the first one was avoidance. The second thing that I'm terrible at is saying what I should, when I should. I don't articulate what I should in the moment. I think we're probably all fairly familiar with that. The third one is skiing. There's a few stories around that. The fourth one is I'm terrible at sharing what I do. I'm quite good at creating it and terrible at sharing it. I just leave it sitting there gathering dust. And my last thing on Terabella is looking outside of myself for. Answers. Now episode two. I actually talked and found this very uncomfortable about five things that I'm good at. And they were as follows being there in a crisis. Never giving up, seeing the threads and getting to the heart of the matter and just positivity, belief and faith that it would all be okay. And seeing the potential in people before they see it in themselves. So here I am today with my five biggest fears. One of which my children find very funny and like to talk about on the WhatsApp group, the they have amongst themselves. My first fear is being eaten. I think it's fair to say that this is quite an irrational fear. Given where I live, which is not near to any water. Not near to a forest or jungle that possesses anything that might want to eat me in a suburb. Of the city. In the UK. I think the chances of me actually being eaten alive by something a very slim, but that doesn't mean to say it couldn't happen when I travel. So this fear, I think possibly even predates the film jaws. So it's been with me for a very long time. And I am one of those people, and I don't think I'm alone in this that can be swimming in a swimming pool and believe that a shark is chasing them. Oh, yes. And every time I swim in the sea, whether I'm in Guernsey up to my knees, whether I'm on a paddleboard. In Cornwall. I mean, they do have very large sharks down there, but they're not meant to eat me. Or wherever I am. I am convinced I'm going to be eaten by a shark. Now, if I'm not going to be eaten by a shark in water, I am definitely, if I'm in fresh water is going to be eaten by a crocodile. Yeah. There's absolutely no downspout that a crocodile is going to eat me. And every time I go in the garden, that is going to be a lion lurking in the bushes. And even when I walk into my local high street, there is definitely going to be. Elian, maybe a bear that is going to eat me. Every time I see in the newspaper that a carcass of a sheep has been found, dragged up a tree in dark small, whatever it is that has done that is going to be finding its way up the motorway walking. On a bus. Or maybe even on a train. To then get off a new street station and come and find my garden and look in the bushes. So just to say that, yes, I think we can assume that that fear is rather irrational or even totally irrational, but anyway, It is one of my biggest fears. And I think that is the point about fears. It's okay to have fears that we know what. Irrational. And just the. I think it would actually be quite funny if that's how I met my end is being eaten alive by something sort of maybe not. But given that it's barely unlikely to happen, certainly when I'm going about my everyday business in the UK. Anyway, I was talking to my daughter the other day because she wants to do some traveling and she was talking about going to a national park in America. And I said, is there anything there that might eat me? And she said, well, there are bears and wolves. And I said, well, we are absolutely not going to that national park then. Which is maybe a little bit unfair. I might have to get over that. But on the other hand, I think, well, why would you take the risk? I've also got a friend in America who sends me pictures of the mountain lions that she has just beyond the perimeter of her fence. Which again, terrifies me because she really could be in the swimming pool and a mountain lion could jump in with her. Oh, no, let's move on. Okay. So my second biggest fear is that of time running out. And I don't know whether this is probably, probably is a bit of an age thing, but I'm starting to think. Oh, my golly time is running out to do all the things that I want to do. Hopefully I still have many years left, but there will be some towards the end when I'm perhaps not quite as physically able to do things as I am right now. So I think it means that you live very much in the moment and enjoy life and squeeze every bit of enjoyment out of it. But equally I'm thinking, yeah, probably. Probably never going to be a pilot now, and I'm probably never going to be a nutritionist. And maybe I would have quite liked to have been a nurse or a doctor. And then sometimes I would. I'd love to have been a fashion buyer. I would have liked to write more books, I guess I could still do that, but you know, I'm just at that stage where I'm thinking, oh, okay. So all those things that I really thought I might quite like to do, I'm probably. Not going to be able to do all of them. And I don't really know. Where that shift comes. Maybe. I don't know, mid forties, early fifties. You said anything? Okay. Yes. Perhaps those things aren't going to happen, but I am. I do have a favor of time running out without me having to have achieved everything that I want to achieve and get everything in. Maybe that's something I just need to come to terms with. And maybe again, that is irrational, or maybe if you're listening to this, you're thinking, yes, I know exactly what you mean. Let's get our skates on and do the things that we've always wanted to do. My third biggest fear is something happening to my husband or the kids or my friends or family. And specifically within that, there are things that bother me too, in particular, relating to the children. And that is them being in cars, whether they are driving or being driven and. Being out in a city center. Of an evening. They're the things that unsettled me the most. I'm not a super anxious parent. If they're out at night, I can go to sleep before they get back. I'm not someone who's up waiting for them. Sometimes I think my husband is near say, or did you hear them come in last? I'll say no, I was fast asleep. But occasionally that does cross my mind. Obviously I have the fear about all the relatives dying, but then that is the natural course of events. So that is how it is meant to be. But the thought of anything happening to husband, children. Yeah. Friends. I'm not saying I'm happy for my older relatives to die. Of course I'm not, but we do have to be prepared for that. But when things are taken out of order, That is something that is really difficult to deal with. So I'm going to move on from that, because I think it's probably something we can all identify with and I don't want it to be. Your lasting memory of this podcast episode, Beth being really miserable. Please focus on Beth being eaten alive. See point number one above. If you want to focus on anything that's going to cause you a little bit of amusement for the day. One of my biggest fears actually is being lonely, oblique bored. So I think the way that I'm going to try and mitigate against this is. If I ever find myself in a stage where I'm living alone. And I'm elderly. I'm going to go and live in a retirement village where there's loads of things going on. And that will mean that I've got the choice then of either. Being with people if I want to or not, or something else, do you know? I think there's a whole massive market out there for something like this is buying a big French sheet and going and living there with your mates, but then having people to come in and help when you can't all manage to do everything for yourself anymore. So. Have hair just to come in and people would come in and just make sure that everything was running smoothly and a handyman and all that sort of thing. So I'll leave you to your own definition of what handyman means. But I think that could be quite a good way when you get holder to make sure that you're not being lonely. Uh, And that you're not bored and that you still living life to the full, within the possibilities of what is open to you. And do you know, I don't have a fifth one. So I'm not going to make one up. So my 5, 5, 5 miniseries has gone a little bit wrong because on day three of my 5, 5, 5, I've only got four. But. That's a good thing. If I've got four fears in life being eaten alive, time, running out something happening to somebody that I really love and being lonely or bored. That's okay. I can live with that. So I'm not going to force myself to come up with a fifth. Thing that I have a fear about if I don't actually have a fear about it, because that isn't the way that I like to roll. I hope that's okay with you. This means it's a shorter podcast episode than some of the others, but. Let's go with that for today. I will be back tomorrow with episode four of my 5, 5, 5. And that's hope that within that I can actually get five things tomorrow. I'm going to be looking at five spiritual practices that I follow on a daily basis. And I would love it. If you would come and join me tomorrow. Now, if you liking this little 5, 5, 5 mini series, please let me know if you would like to share it with anyone else who you think might be interested, then that would be fabulous. And have a fabulous day. I should look forward to seeing you again tomorrow you take care. Lots of love and bye for now. This is the place where I say all of the things which I should have said during the podcast episode, but which I forgot. So first of all, thank you so much for joining me today. I hope that you enjoyed the episode. If there's anything that you would like me to cover in future episodes, please just let me know. If there was anything that I mentioned and that you'd like more details about, whether it is a resource or a code for a product, just take a look in the show notes. I will be sure to have mentioned it there, and if you would like to subscribe to the podcast so that you get notified as soon as future episodes are ready, then please just hit the subscribe button now. Thanks so much once again. Have a super week and I will see you again soon. Bye for now.