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You Don't Need A New You, Just Love The Old You - Contemplating Wise Words From Matt Haig As Shared By Dr Julie Smith

• Beth Goodrham

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In this episode my friend, Libby, and I consider (from varying angles!) an especially wise quote from Matt Haig which reads as follows:

"You don't need a new you. You don't need replacing every year like another iPhone. Don't throw yourself away like another piece of plastic trash. Love the old you. Improve, evolve, do better, but head towards yourself not away. Be gentle with your mind."

It's such a profound quote and led us down many different avenues, before we reached our ultimate goal of today's episode which was discuss, and share with you, our favourite TV series.

We hope that you enjoy the ride!

Resources referred to in today's episode:

Why has nobody told me this before? - Dr Julie Smith
Create your photo books here: Photobox

Where to find us:

Come and find Beth on Instagram at bethgoodrham or at her website www.bethgoodrham.com

To find Libby, head to 

Hi, I'm Beth, and this is my podcast, A Friend in Your Ear. Friends are so important in our lives. They support us through the good and the bad, the ups and the downs. They give us the space to grow and the grace to fail. They are our biggest cheerleaders when we are our harshest critics. They are not just here for us, but they're here with us. And that's what this podcast is all about, being a friend in your ear. I'm a lawyer turned stylist and fashion blogger who built a successful styling business. And now I work from home running an online business. I spend a lot of time reading books, listening to audio books and listening to podcasts. My favourite podcasts offer me advice, comfort, support, wisdom and fun when my real life friends are busy. And this is a place where I can take what I've learnt and deliver it in a way that hopefully makes your life easier, gives you something to ponder and brings a little joy to your day. Think of this as a chat with a friend, a place where you can come to reminisce for nostalgia, a giggle and a place to find answers to something that might be bothering you. So whether you're out on a run or a walk, on the school run, being a taxi to your kids or grandkids, on a Zoom meeting with your microphone muted or sitting with a glass of something cold in your hand, welcome to the A Friend in Your Ear podcast.

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Hi, and welcome to another episode of a Friend in Your Ear, the first of 2024. Please excuse my very gravelly voice that is thanks to laryngitis and tonsillitis, which I had over Christmas, and which hasn't quite left the building yet. Now, in this episode, I have my friend Libby with me, and as you know, the podcast is called A Friend In Your Ear, and I thought. Luckily for you this week, you can have two friends in your ear at the same time whilst you're out on your dog walk, doing the washing, doing the ironing on the way to work or whatever it may be. And we are going to be talking about something very deep and meaningful. But before we get started, let me introduce you to Libby. I will throw it over to her to say hello and to tell you how delighted she's to be here today.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

Oh, I'm so delighted to be here today. Thank you. I. My name is Libby. Thanks Beth, for the introduction. am not as croaky as Beth, but we have had this tonsillitis that I think. My daughter was the super spreader, so was entirely grateful to my younger daughter for giving us tonsillitis, laryngitis and whatever. But yeah, I'm a bit more snotty. You're a bit more croaky, which I think is unfair because croaky always sounds a little bit sexier than snotty, doesn't it? So I'm a bit peeved about that. But anyway, I'm not gonna slow myself down with those negative thoughts. I will move on. It's great on a podcast with you. Do podcast for work, but this is gonna be such fun, although I can't guarantee that I'm gonna say anything at all of any worth or value, but maybe I'll, maybe that's my new way of thinking this year, that I will bring something. Anyway, thank you, Beth, for having me back to you.

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Oh, you're very welcome, lib. Now, today we are going to be talking about a quote. Which Libby found on Instagram. It was on Dr. Julie's feed. Now, if you don't follow Dr. Julie, or if you haven't read her book, why did nobody tell me this before? It is a real revelation and an eyeopener. I think we both. Found it last, when? Was it last summer or before then? Um, I think, I can't remember which one of us bought it first, but there was a lot of turning of pages, putting of stickers, underlining oohs, ah, ums, and long runs, talking about Dr. Julie's book. Is that fair to say?

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I had two journals on Dr. Julie's book. That's how we love Dr. Julie. Yeah, I think it was a summer before last because I remember reading it on holiday and I remember you saying, this book is so good and it, it really was good. If you want to think about rethinking kind of pathways in your brain, I think the professionals call it neuro pathways. it's really amazing. sure we can link it in the show notes or something, but Yeah, I think so. I think it was about 18 months ago.

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It was really Revelation. Wasn't it? It was just one of those books that seemed to come along and took the World by storm, seemed to just tick so many boxes and be so eye-opening and so refreshing, so modern, up to date, and really, really accessible. So it gave us great food for thought. And like I say, many runs. But on her Instagram feed, you found a quote by Matt Hague, who is Probably more of an author, but it also talks about mental health and emotions. And resetting yourself, doesn't he? And he has this great quote, which I'm going to read out lib, and then we're going to do a deep dive intellectual stimulating discussion about it as,

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Let's do.

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so the quote reads as follows. You don't need a new you. You don't need replacing every year like another iPhone. Don't throw yourself away like another piece of plastic trash. Love the old you improve, evolve, do better, but head towards yourself, not away. Be gentle with your mind, and it's a lovely quote. I'm going to see how you interpret it, first of all, because some days I wake, wake up and do feel like a piece of old plastic trash that does need chucking away, and I need to start from scratch again, but let's not go there right now. So over to you, lib. What do you make of the quote and how do you interpret it?

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Yeah, I really, it's just funny'cause when we were talking about it, wasn't it, I really liked it. Whereas you were like, no, I want a new iPhone. it's

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Literally.

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it. I love, and that's part of why it's really good. I think friendships, when you're able to talk about things like this and be honest, is so good because you don't always don't have to agree. I really liked about it, and part of why I read Dr. Julie's book, even though She's not American, but it would be fine if she was, um, part of why I read her book and liked it is because sometimes I struggle with those as I'm sure loads of people do those I'm rubbish. I need to totally revamp myself. And I got those kind of pathways of always assuming the worst. And then sometimes when you come around to New Year, that right. I'm really gonna reinvent myself this year because I've been so rubbish. And instead of kind of encouraging yourself, you just go along those negative pathways again. So what I really liked about this quote, it's like saying there's nothing wrong with who you are, your iPhone, whatever number it is, I don't know what number mine is. I just like it'cause it's really big so I can read it. So it is like, actually my big iPhone is fine. It doesn't have 20 billion cameras on the back like my kids do. But actually. It's really good in the same way that I am really good and I've got good things about me. So it's, it's actually how do I improve on that? Um, to carry on this iPhone analogy if I can without squeezing the living daylights adv it. It's like, well, how do I get rid of some data on my phone. Get rid of some podcasts, get rid of some photographs so I can, I can free it up for something else. Or how do I use it a bit more effectively? How can I record more voice notes, which is what I kind of want to do. And I just thought that was really helpful for me, especially having been ill just before New Year and all my days, I was feeling really sorry for myself at New Year, that whole thing. You don't have to check everything out. It's actually what's really worked for you. What are you really good at? What can you really focus on? Or what are the the things of value in you that you can work on instead of checking everything out and saying, right, I'm gonna be up at half five, I'm gonna be working out for three hours. I'm gonna work so hard, I'm gonna get five promotions. And I know it sounds funny, but actually sometimes, and Beth can attest to this because she's got a certain voice that she uses, when I start bashing myself over the head. Sometimes I can go down that pathway. So I really like this quote. It was like, don't go down that pathway. Go down a different one and try this out for size. So that was my deep dive, Beth, but over to you.

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Well that's, that's a very good deep dive. You see, when I look at it, it does make me think about my iPhone, which frankly has barely any storage on it. They keep telling me that it needs to be upgraded. It is really slow, and I'm like. Oh yeah, that's you. You need to do something quite drastic. But then really, I don't actually think that at all because I do love my old iPhone and I'm quite attached to it, even though it is a bit faded around the edges.

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Oh, I.

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I'm starting to be on a bit of a go slow and there's part of me that goes. Do you know, there's something quite comfortable about that as well. And it doesn't have to be all new and shiny and actually, do you know things that start off as new and shiny? And I remember reading this or hearing this about clothes once and say, everything that you buy that is new is gonna be old one day. So actually you can't just keep going back to new and shiny. And I think sometimes, particularly at the start of a new year. We can make all of these, I I, I am going to journal every day and I'm going to do this, and I'm going to have this manifestation practice and I'm going to have this practice. And then by the middle of January it's all gone apart. And so you feel really bad about yourself. So sometimes it can be, I think it's about having those little tweaks. You see? I have, okay, lib, I'm gonna share a really deep one here with you.

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I'm ready. I've got my snorkel on. I'm ready to go deep. Come on, love. Take us down.

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I have this thing about dry January. I think it's really bad. I think it's a really bad thing because it beats yourself over the head. I have this theory that you kind of build up to drinking more over Christmas. So you might maybe start at the start of December and you have a little bit more maybe on a Friday night or at the weekend. And then as December goes on, I'm not talking about excessive drinking, but then you Kind of have a bit more of the Christmas period and it almost might become a bit of a daily thing and it crescendo's on New Year's Eve, and then people say Right from tomorrow, I'm not gonna have any. And I just think. In the same way that you lead up to something, you kind of need to cut down slowly as well, because otherwise it's a massive shock to the system. You'll kind of get to that time of night and people might start hunting for a drink and then tell themselves they can't have one, so they replace it with something else, or they'll give up and then they'll feel rubbish about themselves. I'm like, no, can't be bothered with that. Not doing that. Let's just go easy on ourselves. I'm all about. Going easy on ourselves. So actually, if you want to have a month that's dry, I think it's better to do mid-January to mid-February or the whole of February just to take the pressure off. And it's the same with

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sister. on. You're right there.

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It's the same with. Anything that we build up to, like if people have been eating more cakes and sweets and biscuits over Christmas, give yourself a couple of weeks to come down the other side before you go. Uh, having said that, my granddad who had smoked as I sound, I do at the moment, smoked like 40 cigarettes a day. I think one new year just Threw the packet to one site and said, I'm never having another one. And, and he didn't. And that was amazing. But I think so much comes down to personality and human design, and we can quite often try and fit ourselves in a box. This is another big one of mine, lib fitting ourselves in a box.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

Yay.

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put ourselves into a box. Other people tell us we should fit into. But actually maybe that isn't right. For your particular personality, maybe for some people slightly backtracking on what I said, it is good to go cold Turkey and that's what works for them. But for other people it will be aled steady let, I'm just gonna cut things out slowly before I do the more hardcore stuff. And so coming back to this whole phrase that we were talking about in this quote, and I'm not sure whether it does, but in my mind it does. It's about getting to know yourself really well. I think once you know yourself really well, you can decide how you're going to improve, how you're going to involve and be better. WhIle still being gentle with yourself.'cause I think we all probably want to make some improvements. We recognize where things need to change, but we need to be doing it in a way that works for us. Otherwise we're following someone else's recipe and when it goes pear shaped, we feel rubbish and that doesn't help. So I always come back to this thing of getting to know yourself, and I think that's really important and something we need to work on a lot as we get older in life. Is that a bit deep for a. Well, it's a Friday as we are recording this.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

I love it. I think. I think it's good. I really like, I think picking up on what you are just saying and something that I have struggled with, the problem is if we take someone else's blueprint, then we go down that comparison route, don't we? And the whole comparison is the thief joy. Such a deep saying, but quite hard to put into practice actually. And then when we don't do,'cause the other person is, I don't know, journaling every day or doing whatever we would like to see ourselves do. We are not doing it. So then we beat ourselves up'cause we're not as good as that person. So again, if comparison. Is often your poison of choice as it can be with me, I think I have got better recently. Then again, unless we're to coin an totally overused phrase, doing you or more accurately, unless we've recognized who we are. We've recognized our value and are going our way. If we then choose somebody else's way, we're then hitting ourselves even more with the comparison stick. And that stick needs to stay in the cupboard at all time because no good ever comes from the comparison stick. So I think that point is really good. Um, of the things that has come outta that, that we've done, and we've got another friend who's picking up is, that whole thing of actually for this year. I'm gonna pick a word. I'm not going to pick resolutions as such, but I'm gonna pick a word that I want to think about what that looks like in my life. So this time last year, I picked the word consistency. So not saying I'm gonna make these massive changes to my life, but I'm gonna tweak things that I do and I'm gonna do that consistently because I'm not so good on the consistency and what does that look like? And I felt, for me, that was a word that encouraged me. But it wasn't something that I could, um, kind of bash myself over their head with. I was gonna use the word castigate, but I've got no idea whether that's a word or not. I'm really sorry if it means something completely different from what I think it means. But what I mean it to mean is I wasn't going to use it as something to punish myself with when I didn't do it. And that was what I found really helpful. So when we were at running, we were thinking of words for this year, so. is something that's really helpful. And there was three, four of us and we were all coming up with different words and I thought that was lovely because it was actually making it really a personal thing. So it wasn't like we are all going to do this or I'm gonna do that'cause you are doing it. It came from a personal place of, no, this is something that I would like to work on. In my life that I'm okay if it doesn't happen, but actually it'd be really good if it doesn't happen, and it's something I am rabbiting on. This is my last rabbit little bunny coming out. My husband always actually, you're fine as you are, and he's quite good at doing that. I'm fine as I am. Sometimes I want to point out that he's not entirely fine because I can see some room for improvement, but that whole idea that. Yeah, be kind to yourself. You're fine. know, from my faith, it's like you're amazingly made. You are amazingly made. You know, yeah, we can tweak for improvement, but you don't need to do a whole reboot to go back to our iPhone. And that's what I really ha found helpful that one word idea. comes from me. It comes from actually I, I could just make this amazing person that I am. Well sure. Amazing is a little bit excessive for Friday morning. I could make. This person who I am and whatever better means. Does that mean I want to spend more time processing my thoughts? Does it mean I want to spend more time helping a friend? Does it mean I want to spend more time with my husband or my partner? If you've got one, or spend more time in the office really focusing on my career, that that looks like. So yeah, enough to you, Beth. Wisdom from you.

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So your word for last year was consistency. Have you already told us your word for this year? I just totally missed that and forgotten it.

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No. No you haven't because this is just as you said that I was like, my days, I've forgotten my words for this I did think of one, because I know you've got one and this other friend of hers has got a really, really good one. And I won't share that'cause that's hers to share, but I couldn't me.

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Okay. Oh, I've got a, I've got a remembering story before I come onto my word or inability to remember. So yesterday, I, I, you, you probably know this already because you're on the little chat, but basically I, we are lucky enough to have a holiday home in Wales and a few of us are gonna go over there for a weekend sometime soon. And I thought, I'm gonna be really, really organized and I'm gonna go and book in. For this weekend away, and I went to book it and it was booked out. So I messaged everyone. I went, really sorry girls, it's already booked out. We're gonna have to come up with a plan B. Should we rent an Airbnb? What do you want to do instead? One of the girls came back to me and said, Beth, I remember you telling me before Christmas that you'd booked it out. Are you sure it's not your own booking? So I went back in and I was like, oh. Of course it's stopped my own booking. I'm not that stupid. I would've remembered if I'd made my own booking. Sure enough, there it shows up. Owner booking to Beth, I'm like, oh, flip me. And you were all very lovely on the chat and you're like, you're so organized that you've not realized how organized you are. And someone else said, oh, I think you're amazing. And I'm just like, you're such a big fwi. How can you even do that? And then I did something else. And I can't even remember what that was, but I did something else along the same line yesterday, so we'll come back to your word in a minute. Lib, I'll just quickly run through my word and then do you know what? Let's just have a little chat about some rubbish tv. TV we've been watching recently.

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Yes.

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'cause we're good at that because

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So good. And I think we've gone quite deep. We need to do a bit of like paddling in the shallows, don't we?

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definitely need to pad in the shiers. We weren't planning on going deep for this first one. It was meant to be. Well, anyway. It's what? It's, and that's okay. That's the good thing about friendships. Sometimes it's paddling in the shallows and sometimes it's being a trawler on the ocean.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

Sometimes it's Get Your Oxygen Tank. We are going down to one of my programs that I've watched, but I can't remember what it's called. What's the one in No, no, no, no Below. Oh no, no. That is for a whole different chapter. What is it called? The one about the submarine, the BBC one with Sara Jones.

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no. Okay, so my word is trust because in previous years I've had words like courage or bravery or something along those lines, and then I came. But I kind of dug a bit deeper and thought you can't have any of those bigger words without having a trust in yourself. And what that looks like is knowing that we have our own backs and showing ourself kindness and compassion, not turning on ourselves when we make a mistake.'cause it's all very well being courageous. But if the first si, if at the first sign of courage it falls a bit flat. Then it's really easy to beat yourself up. So before courage and before being brave comes having trust in yourself. And it's things like reminding ourselves that in the moment we make the best decisions we can with the knowledge that we have. Even if with hindsight we'd make a different decision. And I found that really helpful over the years, especially when it comes back to parenting type issues. And I look back and go, I should have done that differently. And I go, yeah, but I did the best that I could given what I knew in the moment. Since then, I've probably had another, you know, 15, 17 years of parenting. Experience. So maybe I would make a different decision. And it comes down to listening to your inner voice and your intuition. And rather than subcontracting the decisions we make in life out to others, which is kind of what we were talking about earlier, following someone's blueprint, checking in with our intentions so we know we're operating from a good place. Holding space for ourselves to have off days without panicking. Building a toolbox to hold ourselves when the seas get stormy is all that kind of thing. It's just having that deep trust, and that's what I'm really working on this year because to me they're like the foundations. If you're building a house, you've got to have the foundations in place, or it's like building a house on quicksand. And I use the same sort of analogy slightly differently, but. When you're building a wardrobe and you know, a great wardrobe comes from having some key foundational pieces, and then you can build up from there. So I think you can apply. I love analogies in life. You can apply it to your kitchen cupboards, like you can make great meals. As long as you've got the key foundational pieces in place, there's no point in having these weird and wonderful wacky ingredients. If. There's nothing to build on them from. So that's what it is for me. Trust is, is doing that deep foundational work and just be like, yeah, I've got my own back. This might not turn out how I wanted to, but you know what? I'm not gonna beat myself up about it. I'm gonna hold myself through it. I've got stuff in my toolbox. I'm okay. I'm not gonna turn on myself. I've got my own back. Because we have to have our own backs. If we, if we haven't got our own backs, then we can't really expect anybody else to have them either. Unless we've got lovely friends who will just scoop us up like you guys have done on several occasions and kind of put me back together.

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But I, I just, can I just pick up, I've just written it down and put loads of arrows. I love that. Don't subtract your decision. That sub No. Subcontract

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Yeah.

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decision. That is such a good. Phrase. Yeah, trust. Trust yourself

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Yeah, because I think we've got the answers within. We just need to find them and hold onto them. And there's so much noise out there. You know, if you go on YouTube, you'll see something. If you go on Instagram, you'll see something. If you put the radio on or the TV on, sometimes you've just gotta get quiet and go, okay, that's great for them, but actually what's going to work for me?

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yeah.

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that's, that's why I came up with trust. But that's aside, unless you've got anything else to say on that. Lib, I want to know what your word for the year is. Did you remember?

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

I did. I'm so glad I remembered it's focus. yes. Um, uh, sometimes I can get overwhelmed with everything I've got to do, so I try and do everything at once. So I've, now trying to just go, okay, I know you've got a long list. Now let's just focus on this one job. So yesterday, at the end of every year, I try and do, um, a photo book just memories of the year, because I have been shockingly bad at kind of saving down photographs, um, of the year and. Of the family, et cetera. So, and it always takes me a little bit of time and it was on my list and it was, we obviously talk about these, it's that frog that we've got to swallow. So it's a job that we've got to do and either we don't want to do it'cause it'll take too long or it's too affy or a bit scared of it. And I was just like, right, just gonna focus on that job. You're not gonna pick up anything else on your list. You're just get focus on that job. I did, and I, I finished it and I looked at my list. I was like, I haven't done anything else on my list. It's like, no, because actually you focused on that job. You've done it. And that's, that's fine. So that's kind of part of what, just, just slow down and focus. You don't have to tick off all your jobs all the time. and actually just, and that might mean focusing on work for a bit, turning your phone off. Turning. Is it confession time? Yes, it is. Turning a regular daily newspaper feed off at work. I'm not even gonna say it, I'm not gonna say it because, um, is it about that, and then is it when you come home focusing on something at home, you know, I'm lucky enough to have a family when I get home. Is it about focusing on one of those family members? So, yeah, just what does that mean again? Being kind to myself, not beating myself up about if I don't do it, but actually giving myself another slightly overt phrase, giving myself permission just to focus on one thing as opposed to trying to do everything all of the time. So that is my word.

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That's quite an interesting one, isn't it?'cause I can see that could either be really helpful or you could use that as a stick.

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Yes.

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I think it could go one way or the other. I mean, you are the queen of lists. You've always got lists going. I'm really good'cause I have a list with a few things on it, and then I add to the bottom the things I've already done and immediately cross them off and then look great. Now by the end of the day, it means I only have two things left on my list, but it's the two things I started with and should have done first. And then they stay there for a week, whereas I think you are a bit better actually crossing the the things off. But I can see that focus could become a bit of a stick if you're like, I need to focus on this and what does that look like? But on the other hand, it does mean it's okay just to focus on this and to let everything else fall by the wayside. So I'm gonna keep my eye on that one with you.

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Because one of the things I'm very good at is turning everything into a stick and putting it bulging.

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Your cupboard has been quite full of sticks over the last few years. We're trying.

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to check that stick is not getting too sticky.

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Okay. We don't want a sticky stick. We don't want any sticks at all. In fact, well, I think that's quite enough. Deeper meaningful for one week. I'm actually, do you know what I was going to say? Can you. Shall we link in the show notes to where you do your photo books?

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Oh, that's a good shout. Yes. They've got 50% off for January at the moment. I think

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Oh.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

I think it's called. Ooh. Could it be something original like photo box

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Well, we'll pop it in the show notes so that if people want to go and start making we, we meant to do that between Christmas and New Year. We did one last year after we've been to Iceland, so we've got one family photo book even though my eldest is now nearly 25. So we've got a bit of catching up to do. If you don't see see me until June, then it's because I'm making family photo books.

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You are focusing and trusting yourself. Let's talk tv. Talk tv.

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Let's talk about tv. Go on. Have you remembered the name of what it is you've been watching? People always love a good TV recommendation more than anything else in life. Go fire away, Mrs.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

fly far away. So it was a submarine that reminded me. It's called Vigil

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Right.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

it's on BBCI player. It's got two series I've watched the first, it's with Sara Jones, who's been in loads of stuff. She's

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Coronation.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

was it? Yeah. I, I, I don't watch the soaps,

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I know you don't far too.

squadcaster-c1d9_3_01-05-2024_103022:

Because then I'm gonna get onto my true obsession. Um, so she's really good in it. Uh, she's in a submarine. Solving a murder if you're little bit claustrophobic might not be one for you. But that was quite good to watch. Apparently there's a. Series, I haven't gotten to that yet, so that's quite a good one. But my total obsession and has been for probably about four or five months now is below deck. I don't care whether it's below deck, Mediterranean, below deck on the seas, below deck, know what else. Europe Below Deck, America Below deck. even below deck in Norway. I don't care where it is below deck. I'm just horribly, horribly with it. I, it's just taken over my mind. So maybe withdrawal from that would be good for 20, 24. Anyway. What about you? You've got some much more eclectic taste for me.

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No. Well, I love that you watched Below Deck, but I bloody hate it as well. Sorry, I just swore because I keep saying, oh, have you watched this? And you're like, no. Blow below flipping deck just wind itself up. When's she gonna run? Out of Below Deck watching because I'm waiting for you to go. Oh yes, I've watched that. You're like, no. Still watching Below Deck. I'm watching. Uh, so I'm watching one that's called based on a true story. I don't think it is based on a true story, but it's called, based on a True Story. It's slightly random. There's slightly dark humor in it. It's basically about a serial killer. So there's a couple who've got a plumber and there's the serial killer out there, and they work out that the plumber is the serial killer. So they do a deal with him that together they will make a podcast and there's quite a lot of dark humor in it. And he's actually very good and he becomes quite ego centered around the whole thing. And he's like, well, people are making millions off the back of me, which they were at these crime conferences that they have in America.'cause I think it's a big thing over there. Mass murders and things. People get really into the podcasts about it. And so he was like, well, I want to start making money out of it. Everyone's making money off my hard work and all this kind of thing. So that is terrible, but actually quite good. And it also counts for the fact that I am quite tired this morning because I was watching it late last night having looked on right move for beautiful houses to buy in Wales and having watched something on YouTube. And then having watched that and before I came on this, I thought I need a boost of something to wake me up, don't drink tea or coffee. Thought, oh, we might have a bit of Diet Coke lurking somewhere. Then drank a bit and realized it was caffeine free. So that was a total failure for a Friday morning. I know. So, so much for the let's go to bed early. Let's wake up. I did 10 minutes yoga this morning. I mean, I think that was frankly enough, really wasn't it? Um, but so much for the morning routine. I a bit slow off the box this morning anyway. And then the other one I'm watching cannot for the Life of Me remember the name of, I swear. I have checked the name of that TV program at least 15 times, and I cannot remember the name of it, but it's got Joanna Lumley in it.

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Yes. Let's have a see if I can find it for

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Okay, I'll talk about it whilst you check it out. And it's also got Michelle Keegan in it who was also on Coronation Street and I, I can't remember whose girlfriend she was on Coronation Street. I'm wanting to say Steve, but I don't think that it was because Karen, who is Sara Jones? Who is in Vigil, Virgo, whatever you are watching was, was Steve's wife in Corona Street?

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yes.

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So just in the same way that neighbors and home and away produces all the big Australian actors. Coronation Street is where you start or where you stay. If you Bill Roach who's now in his nineties and just signed his next contract and has been there since

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in my Wellknown daily newspaper,

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he's been there since it started in about 19,

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I.

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I was gonna say 22, but people think I'm being serious. I know it didn't start that long ago, but you know, way to go, bill. That's all I can say. Talk about a job for life. Anyway, so I've been watching, having gone off on a tangent. I am watching this great program,

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it's called? It's called Full Me Once,

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fool me once,

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is

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I have to remember the name once, and I can't remember the freaking name once. Fool me once. It's really good. It's really good. I like her. She's quite kick-ass. She doesn't, she doesn't take any prisoners. In fact, she beats quite a few people up, not beats them up, but uses her self-defense and gets them on the floor and they can't get it. Yeah. So that's what I've been watching. But I mean, after I had my op, I watched so much tv. I think I did a podcast episode on what I watched, or I meant to because I watched so many good tv. I would say I'll try and remember them, but I'll just make a balls of it and I won't be able to. But I did like the, I did like the Netflix series on the supermodels. That was good.

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yes.

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I liked the one with the Taylor Swift song at the beginning. Wilderness. That was good. That was a bit dark. Can't remember what else I watched. Apart from that.

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I'm saying Yes. And I can't remember what it was about now.

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Can't remember who was in it, but Wilderness was good. I'm sure I mentioned it and you'd gone. No, I'm watching Below Deck. I'd like, well wait. Call yourself a friend.

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and the, um, the, the Beckham there was the Beckhams

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Oh.

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the Robbie. Did you watch I did watch the Robbie Williams and I really like that. Did you recommend that one?

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Yeah, I watched Robbie watched the Beckhams. Oh, I was so excited when the Beckhams one came out. I swear I'd watched all four. I think there were four.

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Yes.

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watched all four of them before. Anyone in the world.

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Yeah. You watch them back to back. You

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Yeah.

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and then there's also the old favorites, Firefly Lane, Virgin River.

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Yeah.

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I've lost my Virgin River desire

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No, I quite like it got better. I think I said to you the first three episodes of the latest series and dropped in two lots, so there are probably some more for you to watch, but there's quite few for you to watch.

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I need Captain, captain Greg and Below Deck calls me. He goes, Libby, come aboard my ship. Don't go down the Virgin River

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it makes me s every time you use the word

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I know.

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next.

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And there's a very funny, I'm going, I'm literally the tangents coming towards me and I'm jumping on it. Um, it's a very funny Michael McIntyre sketch when he does a very. Accurate impression of a Kiwi accent. And this is absolutely no offense to anyone from New Zealand. I think it's a beautiful country. It's one of my that I most want to go to. Um, and instead of saying deck, they go Dek. And, and so I have a teenage son, although actually I, I can't use him as an expression. I always want to go, I'm watching below in a New Zealand, I'm really sorry if anybody finds that offensive. one of the things. Beth and I do a lot is Snigger and that just makes me below deck. So yeah. Tangent completed back to you, Beth

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You know it's a good day when not only do you snigger, but you snort as well.

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Yes,

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That's saved for very special occasions,

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Special. Has to

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but it's

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funny or very silly. Usually.

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a snicker and a snort is al is always a good recipe now, but, but anyway, lib, we've hit 30 minutes and we were going to try and keep it to, we hope, because this is our first one. We hope that we can actually find this recording. Maybe nobody else will, and we hope that it's been lost into the ether. So.

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It destroyed it, and never do that again. Please.

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If there are any topics you would like us to discuss in upcoming weeks, please feel free to let us know and you can get a great take insight, words of wisdom from wise women. Crohn's, as I think we are now known, having hit this great age, I'm definitely a crone'cause all my reproductive bits have been whizzed out, so you know, I'm definitely wearing that Chrome Crown

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The crown of, I dunno what I, I am as yet. Yeah, I'll, I'll think about that little monocle for myself.

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Definitely wise.

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Oh, thanks. Lovely. Yeah, trout, old trout Got a bit of, got a bit of swing in the tail yet, but still kind of this little bit, I'm doing a, I'm doing an illustration with my fingers, which I've just realized is ridiculous because it's a podcast anyway, bit of an old trout's maybe coming into rest, and a nice meander in a river. enough.

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Well, on that note, Libby, I thank you for being here today. It's been great to chat to you on a Friday morning. We don't often get a Friday morning chat.

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We don't,

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I hope people have enjoyed listening and that they can take away something positive, something a bit lighthearted, and they've stayed with us this long. As we mentioned, we will link below to what are we linking to

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what are

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photo book? Oh, in a book.

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Yeah, and also the quote, maybe it'd be good to kind of put the quote, the Matt Hague quote so that people can go back and have a look at it.

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That's a jolly good idea.

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And maybe the quote to Dr. Julie's book as well.'cause it's amazing.

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What the whole book.

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No, no, no but as in Yes. We'll just reproduce the whole of her book. No, I was more thinking the name of the book so that if people wanted

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Oh

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read

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the name?

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um,

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Yes.

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yeah, that might

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Good idea.

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yeah,

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liking that.

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Yeah.

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Alright then everyone, well, we shall love you and leave you. I hope you have a great week and we look forward to joining you again soon with, like I say some other great words of wisdom, fun, frolics on a friend in your ear. We will send you lots of love and see you again soon. Take care and bye for now.

This is the place where I say all of the things which I should have said during the podcast episode, but which I forgot. So first of all, thank you so much for joining me today. I hope that you enjoyed the episode. If there's anything that you would like me to cover in future episodes, please just let me know. If there was anything that I mentioned and that you'd like more details about, whether it's a resource or a code for a product, just take a look in the show notes. I will be sure to have. Mentioned it there, and if you would like to subscribe to the podcast so that you get notified as soon as future episodes are ready, then please just hit the subscribe button now. Thanks so much once again, have a super week, and I will see you again soon. Bye for now.